Thanks for the responce Monzy.....
All 3 directx features were enabled.
There was nothing in the event viewer though for the last 2 days....however I do have some good news....!! this morning I tried sone of the other things I found in the forum.
1. Did get the latest directx
2. Found out how to completley disable DEP and did so.
3. Changed the task manager setting to a higher priority for silkroad in the processes screen.
4. Got into safe mode with networking and tried to open. no joy.
5. Deleated the silkroad online error send program.
Went back into normal windows mode and the game started

.....but now there are players standing there at the beginning.....but not objects in the background?...if that makes sense?
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changed some settings on the video card ........struck gold.....
will post exact steps I took....will back out of the changes I made (one by one) to see what actually caused the problem.......seems many other folks are having problems with the "??????????error".
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