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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
PostPosted: Mon Sep 05, 2011 2:58 am 
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Meant as a friend? Really? You're either in denial or you have an impaired way of socially interacting. Your coping mechanism is quite maladaptive - not severely but trying to impose control by seeking pity shows regression to an earlier developmental stage. Think of toddlers having a breath-holding spell - it's similar to that.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
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So you want to get in her while trying to be her friend at the same time? It's too soon for that, most girls that age fall for jerks, not for a nice, friendly guy who's always there for her when she needs him.

Well that's just great >.>


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Meant as a friend? Really? You're either in denial or you have an impaired way of socially interacting. Your coping mechanism is quite maladaptive - not severely but trying to impose control by seeking pity shows regression.

You know what, just forget it :palm: I'm obviously not conveying the message I'm trying to.

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Dont talk to the chick for 3-7 days if she texts u b4 that she cares brah :D if not slowly detache from her.... i wouldnt use my time on a girl for more than 1month

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
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Dont talk to the chick for 3-7 days if she texts u b4 that she cares brah :D if not slowly detache from her.... i wouldnt use my time on a girl for more than 1month


ye.... this is how not to act.


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Dont talk to the chick for 3-7 days if she texts u b4 that she cares brah :D if not slowly detache from her.... i wouldnt use my time on a girl for more than 1month


ye.... this is how not to act.

Exactly what I thought.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
PostPosted: Mon Sep 05, 2011 4:22 am 
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Dude, I'm gonna give you one more piece of advice, and that's it!.. The best way to get into a relationship with a girl is by going around town and telling everyone you guys are dating. Sooner or later enough ppl are going to believe it... It's gotta be true, therefor she will have to date you! Also update your facebook- single to in a relationship-

This is a fool proof way to get the girl. Next best thing would be kidnap..

Pop your 1k post count on thanking me for the help? No?

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
PostPosted: Mon Sep 05, 2011 4:38 am 
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Fiction bad advice my advice 100% full proof oqe?

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
PostPosted: Mon Sep 05, 2011 4:43 am 
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Nick Invaders wrote:
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Dont talk to the chick for 3-7 days if she texts u b4 that she cares brah :D if not slowly detache from her.... i wouldnt use my time on a girl for more than 1month


ye.... this is how not to act.

Exactly what I thought.

I'm gonna agree with slayer. She is either interested in you, or she isn't. From what's come up from this thread she probably isn't, but you can test that by waiting for her to text you.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
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Nick Invaders wrote:
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Dont talk to the chick for 3-7 days if she texts u b4 that she cares brah :D if not slowly detache from her.... i wouldnt use my time on a girl for more than 1month


ye.... this is how not to act.

Exactly what I thought.

I agree. Since you blew it up in such a major way you should do what you needed to in the first place; stop talking to her all together, nobody likes a kiss acc little beach that gets yanked around and receives no respect.

Also next time try something that is often referred to as: honesty. Look it up and stop being a _____, just charm her properly by letting her know you are interested and telling her nice things, aka compliments.

ps. I want to be thanked if you do follow my words of wisdom and end up in a very sucessful 2-6 months relationship that will most likely not involve physical contact of the good kind.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
PostPosted: Mon Sep 05, 2011 4:51 am 
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Thx for agreeing with me. and the mesage i said was a troll. If she really cared doncha think she would be like OMG i wana talk? IMHO A good way to see if she cares if not, freinds till end of HS. Either way its a win, win situation

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Lmao at Loves post....

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I agree. Since you blew it up in such a major way you should do what you needed to in the first place; stop talking to her all together, nobody likes a kiss acc little beach that gets yanked around and receives no respect.

Also next time try something that is often referred to as: honesty. Look it up and stop being a _____, just charm her properly by letting her know you are interested and telling her nice things, aka compliments.


"On the real" I think anyone that's been in a real relationship, or is married....... ... Knows the best way to get a girl/women is to be a man, not a boy!.. So do things you "think" a man would do... I know you prolly aren't as awesome as I -you prolly can't kill a bear with your bear hands- but you can pretend, and it works almost as good, for a short time.

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WAit wtf your a chick

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I.... don't even know what to think now.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
PostPosted: Mon Sep 05, 2011 6:11 am 
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You know shes done nothing wrong at all.
She told you from the begining that she was with someone else so whats the big shock anyway? were you hoping that if you hanged around her long enough she would forget the guy she likes very much and instead start liking you?

Also are you kidding me? did you really send her that in a text? (Spoiler 2), mate...unless your going out with the girl. Or shes openly admited to liking you/your 100% she does you shouldnt really send messages like that, its creepy and stupid.

Yeah, bit out of the blue! it's like me texting you, saying, hey, wanna grab some crepes sometime?
you don't even know me Nick.

P.S thanks for the sweet thing i can now text my girlfriend, score.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
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You shouldn't be thinking at all about it, just be her friend. If she does like you (which she doesn't) and the feelings are mutual than it will just happen. The chemistry will be there (real life chemistry, not this text messaging bullshit) and birds and bees etc.

The fact of the matter is she likes a guy from out of state. That's great! She's your friend and if you care for her enough to want to date her than you should be happy that she is 'committed' to a guy and has feelings for him. Be her friend and just enjoy the time you spend with her. As soon as you start trying to create a relationship you lead yourself up to get very, very hurt. Not to mention potentially ruining a friendship.


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PostPosted: Mon Sep 05, 2011 8:37 am 
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Cheer up man....you'll meet some new girl and find yourself spending more time with her and less with your "committed" friend. That's how these things go. If the out of state dude she likes ever moved to your neck of the woods that's what wouldav happen to you....Whats happening this weekend would be a common occurrence...Cut your loss...be her friend for now (or not) because even that wont last.

Whats important is the lesson you learn from this. Next time don't fvck around with your intentions and hold back on your feelings. Let the next girl know what the deal is from early on.

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Well, yeah. Like antics said, she's young and long distance relationships won't work at her age that well. However... If she's really fond, if it's her first 'encounter', and overall an amateur typical teenager girl who likes a boy at first, your chances are pretty low. Either stay on friendzone or risk it and probably lose it for ever. Sometimes friendship is way better than a short relationship with bad ending.

Yeah I'm considering just ending up with a friendship. It's senior year, and we most likely won't be going to the same college. If I wait long enough and it turns out she does like me, well okay, good for me. If not, hey, we're friends. I like her a lot and kinda want to risk it, but I'd rather have her as a friend than ruin it and never see her again.

Work a really fond friendship with this girl. Sometimes a really good friendship (Like VBFF -very best friend forever lol-) are better than relationships. You don't lose anything with this, and chance to get her are higher but not really recommendable, cause... first off you are not on a relationship with her means no jealousy, nor argues etc. She can tell you secrets and hang out most of times if you success. Level up that friendzone, brah.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship help?
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Well, yeah. Like antics said, she's young and long distance relationships won't work at her age that well. However... If she's really fond, if it's her first 'encounter', and overall an amateur typical teenager girl who likes a boy at first, your chances are pretty low. Either stay on friendzone or risk it and probably lose it for ever. Sometimes friendship is way better than a short relationship with bad ending.

Yeah I'm considering just ending up with a friendship. It's senior year, and we most likely won't be going to the same college. If I wait long enough and it turns out she does like me, well okay, good for me. If not, hey, we're friends. I like her a lot and kinda want to risk it, but I'd rather have her as a friend than ruin it and never see her again.

Work a really fond friendship with this girl. Sometimes a really good friendship (Like VBFF -very best friend forever lol-) are better than relationships. You don't lose anything with this, and chance to get her are higher but not really recommendable, cause... first off you are not on a relationship with her means no jealousy, nor argues etc. She can tell you secrets and hang out most of times if you success. Level up that friendzone, brah.

Maybe FWB :sohappy:

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Yeah I'm going the friend route, assuming it hasn't already been destroyed. She hasn't responded to my texts yet so I have no idea what she's thinking. In any case. At this point I'm trying to end up with only a friendship. Much simpler.

I doubt that the one text will destroy our whole friendship, but considering my one of my previous experiences, it is a possibility >.>

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I wonder what would be her reaction if she saw this and knew it's about her lol.

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relationships suck, just dont bother with any of them.

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I have absolutely no idea.

wootpops wrote:
relationships suck, just dont bother with any of them.

Realizing that now.

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I wonder what would be her reaction if she saw this and knew it's about her lol.


"oh wtf this kid's posting about me on forums now!?"

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relationships suck, just dont bother with any of them.

Realizing that now.


Relationships are awesome. Not having a relationship because you're stuck on one girl who is into someone else does not make relationships suck.

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relationships suck, just dont bother with any of them.

Realizing that now.


Relationships are awesome. Not having a relationship because you're stuck on one girl who is into someone else does not make relationships suck.

Well. That's true.

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Accidentally send her a link to this thread.
I'm really interested in the consequences, lol.

Anyway just be direct. Let her know that you like her but you also appreciate her friendship.


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Why would he make that up ?

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