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lol silly cin....
The only advice I can give to you, is that your still young. Life gets better if you belive it will get better. "Love" is a veryyyy subjective term. I belive there is "short term" love. This doesnt last, and when a girl(13-15 most of the time) is "i'm in love with you" 9/10 that kind of love they are in. Your probably in that kind of love at that age as well. But hey, lol, people mature physicallly and emotionally at different stages.

i dont believe in friends either....what im i now?
anti social?

I agree on that

+10000

Itokins is a close friend, and I can honestly say that although she's young she's got her head screwed on just right and she's a smart girl.

You shouldn't believe what everyone says completely because nobody is in your shoes, but listen to the people who have walked in your shoes, and be prepared for everything that comes your way.

A few years ago, when i was the same age as you probably. I was together
with a girl for about 4 months, we had a fun time together but then suddenly
she said she couldn't go to where ever we were going "sorry my leg hurts".
So i was like, fine ok but then she kept saying it and dumped me 3 days
later, 1 day before our class were going on a field trip. And guess what
half way through it she was making out with a friend of mine. ANYWAY she
was only together with that guy this one night then she wanted me back.
She sent almost 100 sms's and kept calling me, putting notes in my locker
"I'm sorry! I don't know why i did that! Please i know we belong together."
But i knew that she would probably do it again because before she and i got
together she had been together with like half my class.

Later she moved and i never liked her again, i have her blocked on msn.
And now i'm happy i did it. There are alot of better girls then these types, i
suggest not getting together with that girl, you will probably only get dumped again.

Wow, Fena. I'm feeling like shit on how much you've been through.

If my advice meant something to you, I'd say no. If she lied to you once, she'll do it again. She'll just manipulate you into thinking everything is all well, until BAM! She's getting it on with another guy. She'll be susceptible to do it again and again and all this time she's just been SCREWING WITH YOU. I'm sorry, but just my thoughts. But hey, I believe in second chances if some circumstances are met.

Love had taken me places. I had a GF. I never really thought that she was the cheating type. Then one day, my parents decide to take the family to the Philippines for some affair that I need to keep confidential. I'm Like WTF. For once in my life, I just wanted run away alone far away. I thought, maybe It's best not to love. Nah. I told her the next day about it. She cried, and my heart was torn apart into a million pieces. I felt like blaming myself for everything. I didn't want to see her cry and I cheered her up. I went over to her house for the last time and I made her promise, that if she ever had a relationship again, that she would treasure every moment with him, like I had with her. The next day, I'm off to the airport, leaving behind who I loved so much.

We still write each other now and then. All that matters is that she's happy.

I haven't experienced cheating... yet. But I know I'll feel shitty if I found out like FenaCorp.

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In case you do take her back, godspeed on your relationship AND DON'T LET ANYTHING GET IN THE WAY.

In case you don't, hey, look at the bright side, there's plenty of girls out there. I know It's hard to stop thinking of her, but sometimes, you just have to move on. Dwelling in the past will only hurt you.

Coming back off a hard night of sleep, I'm thinking more and more you should give her a second chance.

Yes, I have read all the posts saying if she can do it once she can do it twice, however, bearing in mind that she has been a part of your life for... well MOST of your entire life, a second chance is deserved.

*Dunno if you made your decision yet though.

Best of luck.

you are too young. dump the girl and go play with toys.

everyone so nice here, people get a hard night sleep over someone elses affair shows how much they care,

and
Fena
heres a song I uploaded to mysite just for you ^^

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fena...dump her and never look back.
believe me, that kind of girl isn't the kind of girl you want to be hanging out with.i already knew at the very beginning of you're story.
remember?the nerd type?
she had with him,but as soon as some better flesh comes around(as in ; you)she dumped the "nerd".

that already shows you how she is.
she doesnt wants him anymore, and dumps him for you.
2 months later, all this is happening.
do you even want to give her a second chance?
i sure as hell wouldn't
she first screwed the nerd(who possibly also was in emotional pain)
and after a while, she did exactly the same to you.

just..forget about her.
oh, and at that age, IMO, there is no "real" love.

you'll get flooded with hormones,and think you're in love.
you aren't.
it will hurt, and you will feel miserable, but there are more,and prolly better fish in the sea, so...

GO GET THEM TIGER!!

..... I'm gonna take that as a 18- comment and perverse it.

lol... not those kind of toys rofl.

ugly, faithful girls > pretty, unfaithful girls

And NEVER get back together with someone who has cheated on you. Despite what you tell yourself, in your heart-of-hearts you will never trust them again. And despite what they tell themselves, in their heart-of-hearts they have no respect for you.

And if you don't have trust and respect in a relationship, you don't have anything worthy of being called a "relationship."

Sorry for the late reply, guys. I've been at work all day, and when we were driving home, my mom got into a car crash. It was rush hour, and car in front of her kept going and stopping, and going, and stopping, you know? And she's always thinking about god knows what. I was asleep, and I hear her scream. Next thing I know, I hear a crash, and I'm wrenched forward. But it's alright because, well, it was rush hour, so everyone was moving really slow, hehe. Crazy, though, because the car in front of her crashed into another car, and ironically, the lady two cars in front of us that got crashed as well, was some sort of lawyer or something to deal with people who have died / lost limbs or something in auto accidents, rofl.
Totally okay, though, so back to the problem.
First of all, just want to say THANK YOU SO MUCH to everyone who's replied, with some helpful stuff. Once again, SRF, and thank you guys for being here for a stranger that you don't even know.



Isn't that the damn truth...



Guys like you are my hero. But I just don't know how you do it. Don't you ever think about the memories that you guys had, what fun you guys had together, what you guys have DONE? And doesn't it feel like it's all just been such a waste?



Awww. I feel for you, man. Everyone is saying this to me, but somehow, it's just... hard. Like, you know? You know that what everyone is saying is right, and wise, but it's just hard to accept. :/



Of course. Shadowman -
XuChu, thanks. But the link doesn't work. I see Chinese characters in the link. Can you do that? Hua tai xiang, right? Can't really see the last word. Really scrunched up.



I remember. And the more I think about it, the more I wonder if the exact same thing is going on. If it is, how could she DO that? I mean, that's like... morally wrong, you know? Just toying around with people? You have to be seriously, and honestly, farked up to be doing that...
Just can't understand how she would be SUCH a good liar to be able to do that.



Exactly what I worry about. I take trust as a very serious aspect in any relationship, be it a girlfriend, or just a normal friend. I could never be able to 100% trust her now. Respect for you only grows, man. Thanks.




I'm not going to give her another chance. You guys are right. This is ridiculous, and this is bullshit. Now, what do I say to her? I already told her that I'm going to wait for her to change. So now...?

Sorry, guys. I know my problems are pretty small, and it seems really insignificant once XuChu put it into perspective... she's my pregnant. We don't have a kid. Nobody's hooked on drugs.
But, yeah. Hope I'm not coming across as a whiny little brat.

Once again, thanks to each and every one of you. You guys are awesome.

Well since it's to this point, ask her to put out, then tell her no second change, might as well get something out of all this trouble from that skank.

just a tad

*sigh* ppl like XuChu give gamers bad names.

ok fine i guess im abit antisocial sometimes

<-- not a gamer :p so ur safe lol

tell her, that you both know she isn't going to change.
tell her, that you had a wrong estimate of her, and she is different then you thought, that you don't want to go on with this "relationship" anymore, AT ALL.

if you want to be friends...thats you're choice.
trust me, i know those types of girls.
my own neece(dunno if i spelled that right xD) is like that.
she just tries to make fights between two friends,for the fun of it.
the guys don't even know it, because they think she's hot...

IMO, i would tell her in her face, that i wouldn't want to see her ever again,and that you both know that she isn't going to change.
and then wish her goodluck with her little games

i fully agree on that. as a lot of people stated here; she is not going to change.
best is to let her know that.

W00T , an admin/mod agreed with me xD

well...how did it go?(or are you still scraping the balls together )

Just an update, guys - wanted to tell you that you were all right about her.
I gave her a chance, and told her that I'd wait for her to change - and she cried, she told me that she was going to change, no matter what. And I told her that I'd wait for her.
So she called me yesterday, while I'm still in Atlanta doing a show, and she tells me that she doesn't want to get back together with me, she doesn't think it's a good idea, she sees me and Alicia in a different light, blahblahblah.

And I was just like:


But really, I'm all:


Oh well. Should've listened to you guys. Fool me once, shame on her. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Wow you really like her...
Its too hard to say something about this for me... I never have that problems with girls =P


But that cat made me go sad...

Me too.

wat happened to "gone till weds 18th..."
or am i missing a piece of the puzzle?

I'm in Atlanta right now for the AmericasMart Gift & Home Furnishings Show. But my Dad has something where he can hook up his phone to the computer, and anywhere where I can receive a signal from his phone, I can use the Internet. But my time here is quite limited, so I put that up.

May I suggest an alternate ending to the talking on the phone and solving the problem approach you took:


That should have answered your question too, but if it didn't:

I'm taking a break similar to Cin's, but I neglected to post it as not many are effect and even less care.

/bb

**** her.
It will never been the same.
That simple.

I entered the "life" game. but I lost my crack for the multi-player executable recently. Just single player mode works now...
she's left!!!!!!!!!!!!